Lately, my own home circumstances have changed because of bereave- ment, and I have sought consolation by giving freer and more frequent expression to my femmepersona and it has mitigated against my loss.

The sense of the absurd, however, still prevailed. That is until recently, when I bought, here in England, a copy of your book, "TV & Wife."

This has rationalised the whole thing for me. It has explained myself to me. The sense of the absurd has vanished completely. I now accept my other self entirely, and when "She" emerges I feel that this is the real "me."

For this revelation I shall be forever in your debt. Having, through you, made the adjustment to complete self acceptance I have taken a great leap forward and, as a traveller surveying a new and pleasant prospect, so for me, other hopes and other questions arise.

In your country, it seems that you have this thing more out in the open, and you are so organised that you can get together and enjoy your ex- periences as a society, and as a way of life.

So far as I know, no such position prevails here in England. We practice in private and in solitude. (Ed. Note - She is not yet aware of the Beaumont Society.)

We dress and make-up, and then spend the day mooning about our own place, feeling frustated and dispirited; rather like a political prisoner under house arrest. Yet knowing all the time that there must be many doing the same thing and feeling the same way.

All of us wishing that we had the means to be together. OR, is it that myself and those like me are missing out on something that does actually exist?

Well, Virginia, you did ask to hear from those who have benefited from your book, and in taking you at your word I do hope that I am not making myself too burdensome.

In my case, in the desolation of bereavement, femmephilia has been a stabilizing force without which I am certain I would have been shattered and disorientated. If my friends knew of my being FP, would they have preferred me non-FP, but shattered and disorientated, or FP and with